I Love Jew
November 16th, 2007About a month ago I was contemplating writing a depressed post on here, and I was going to call it, “Chloe doesn’t love me.” For about two weeks, she had a completely hateful attitude towards me. It was quite distressing.
Not long after her birthday, we were at church having a Princess House party, and she was sitting diagonal to my right, and I was standing talking to Page who was in the kitchen at a diagonal to my left. Chloe looked up at a Page started calling her, “Pay, Pay!” I said, “Page, she’s trying to talk to you.”…
Now let’s just stop right there. This is the first time I had ever heard her say Page this clearly. first time. ever. Back to the story..
Page stopped, and said, “What baby?’ Chloe said, and I quote, “I love jew!”
Hold up again. This is also the first time I’ve heard Chloe says I love you!!! first time! ever!…
Page said, “I love you too, baby.” and Chloe went back to her sandwich. We all thought it was so cute so I called to Chloe, and she turned around to me. I said, “I love you, Chloe.” She snarled her nose and said no, pulling her shoulder up like a shield against me, and then went back to her sandwich.
I was devastated. But then I thought that maybe it was the moment. So for the next few days, I would stop her at unexpected times, happy, stressed, sleepy, all different situations and kept getting the same cold shoulder response. She even stopped coming to me, stopped requesting me, stopped hugging my leg tightly and laughing hysterically like she did when she was being silly. She cried insistently for her Daddy (she’s always been a Daddies girl, but it actually bothered me this time).
One evening I expressed my hurt to Chris, so he called Chloe in. He looked at her with a smile and said, “I love you.” She responded plainly, “I loved jew.” Then I smiled at her and told her i loved her, she snarled at me. Chris worked with her a few minutes, trying to force her to tell me she loved me under threat of punishment. Finally, he said, “Do you love Momma?”
“No.”
I knew she didn’t really know what she was saying, but it was all I could handle. I started crying. The other girls thought I was teasing like I do sometimes and started giggling at me, but it really did upset me.
So I decided that I was going to be my absolute sweetest to her, and win her heart back. Even when I disciplined her, I remained as calm as possible, and was as fair as I could be. It seemed anytime I lost my cool with her, she’d go on a hate mom rampage for the rest of the day.
I’m not sure why she acted that way towards me for so long, and I’m really not even sure if it was as serious as I was letting it be, but eventually, she pulled out of it. She still has her moments of disgust with the world as all two year olds do, but she is running up to me again, calling my name when hurt or upset again, and yes, even saying, “I love jew.”
thats great tammy!!! YAY
Chloe does “Love Jew,” of that I have no question. I remember another little girl giving her Momma the cold shoulder at times while she was growing up, and I Love Jew too!